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I’ve Lost My Sense of Humor and I want it Back!
I have lost my sense of humor and I want it back.
I’ve survived most of my life with humor. My sense of humor is kind of quirky, goofy, fast and it serves me well. I love making people laugh and I love how it can diffuse situations or energy that is headed in the wrong direction. I think I have always used humor as a dependable defense mechanism, and it is a practiced and reliable old friend.
It came in handy when dealing with my Mom. When we weren’t battling with each other we were making each other laugh. I was relieved when I made my Mom smile but overjoyed when I could make her laugh out loud. During her battle with dementia, I ended up trying harder and harder to make her laugh until the laughter slipped almost completely away. There was great sadness then, in the absence of laughter.
What I have come to realize is that my humor is not only a relief valve in my communication with others but also an extremely important release for me. I love and appreciate funny, silly slices of life. It brings me such joy to see things through silliness and fun. Every meme and ridiculous Tik Tok cat or dog post as well as wacky human behavior thrills me and makes me grateful and happy. All of it keeps me going and allows me to keep keeping on.
I’ve noticed that I’m not laughing as much these days, and lately, I am having a hard time seeing the humor. I’m just so tired and stressed about everything that I can’t find the funny anymore. And that’s just horrible.
So, I am now on a mission. I want my humor back. I want to be relaxed and think about the funny side of things again and stop taking everything so seriously. I’ve heard it said that my funny bone isn’t bone at all but a muscle. So, I’m going to start working it out. If you are like me and need to get your ROTFL (roll on the floor laughing) back, let’s try the following:
1. Find stuff you think is funny then dive into it.
Find TV shows, podcasts, comedies, movies, Tik Tok, or anything that makes you laugh. Search until you find something or go back to one of your old favorites. Treat it like homework. Take the time to find something to watch that takes you away for a while, loosens up those shoulders, and makes you throw your head back and laugh. Don’t tell me you don’t have time; get off Facebook or any other social media that makes you feel bad about yourself and watch a comedy instead.
2. Do Everything you can to see the humor in things.
Try to look at all this stuff that’s freaking you out and see the funny side. Life is funny. Caregiving has got to be a joke because you can’t make this stuff up! The more time we waste complaining and being resentful and feeling awful the worse we get. When we frame things with humor and laughter all the darkness goes away. Fight to find the funny.
3. Hang out with people who make you laugh out loud.
We all have people who make us laugh. They get us, they look at the world like we do and just enjoy laughing with us. Surround yourself with those people and if you haven’t been around them in a while pick the phone up and call them. They are the magic sauce that will break down the blues and get the LOL’s going again.
4. Do some self-care.
It’s harder to find the funny side when we are tired or hungry or stuck in a worry cycle. Do something nice for yourself like rest or eating something yummy or a hot bath or putting your favorite music on. Feeling better, in general, helps unlock the humor. Self-care is the balm that brings the ha-ha back.
When life feels like pins in the eyes, we must look at the cosmic irony and keep up the humor. It’s so much better to laugh than cry. I’m pledging right now to keep looking for the funny and I hope you will join me. Here’s to humor, laughs, and giggles, and building up our funny bone!
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So very true. Definitely seeing fewer humanities postings.
Yes! We need to lighten the load! Here’s to getting our sense of humor back! Thanks for commenting!
I had a great sense pf humoŕ.Always happy but my spouse a Vietnam veteran was demeaning me but I still cared for him . God in his mercy is healing him. He tells me to smile. I’m tired gained weight 66 years old. I don’t feel like I use to? God bless you and be with you. Tx Grace
I completely understand not feeling like yourself anymore. Caregiving is hard and can really wear us down. I bet you do have a great sense of humor and it sounds like you also have strong faith and belief. I will pray that you know and see how wonderful you are and what a great wife and caregiver warrior you are. I am also sending lots of love and laughs your way….I promise you will have many LOL moments someday soon.
I also have the same feeling right now. I hope to find it again soon.
We do find it. I can promise that.
I am intelligent and I don’t understand why I can’t see the funny things in life. I use to laugh and had others laugh at things I said. Somewhere things have gotten too serious.a
Well, caregiving can knock the laughter out of us at times. Which is why we have to do everything we can to get our laughter back. I hang out with people who make me laugh as often as I can or watch silly videos or movies I save. I also try and remind myself to see the funny side of things even when they seem horrible. Sometimes things can so intense my sense of humor breaks through and I then milk that as much as I can. I’m sending lots of prayers your way for lots of smiles and laughs for you!
Am at this point in my life and I need my sense of humor back
I can relate! When I struggle to find my sense of humor one of the fastest ways for me to get my lol back is to hang with someone who can always make me laugh. This gets me out of my isolation and helps me get grounded. I pray you can find your lol soon!
i came asking google the same question I’ve been known as a source of joy and inspiration through my jokes I make everything good and everyone laugh by my humor lately I noticed my jokes isn’t as it used to be like this joke is obvious how didn’t I see it or thought about it
I survived most of my childhood and adulthood with my humor I made friendships and romantic relationships based on it i feel like I’m a vault that been robbed life hasn’t been easy on me I faced it with humor and when life getting harder my humor grows sarcasm per saying was my best defense what I’m afraid of that it’ll be gone all of it and I’ll be left high and dry. Knowing that there’s people who share the same thing with me is kinda relief
Facing life with humor is the kindest, bravest thing to do!
I am wondering if with age humor declines
I actually think we find more stuff funny from the perspective of age and wisdom. So many things I worried about seem so unimportant now and silliness seems even more prevalent which makes me laugh. I do think we have all been through some horrific times and caregivers hard tremendous challenges during COVID, so sadly laughter was harder to come by.
One thing that hasn’t diminished is the powerful effect laughter has on us and how it can completely change the room and mood.
I’m struggling to see the funny again lately so I’m going to take my own advice and work at getting my Lol back. I hope you have tons of laughs and giggles today!
I like this website. Makes me feel better to know that I’m not the only one whose somewhat lost their sense of humor.
Many thanks! And no you are not alone! I’m working on getting mine back right now! I see you.
This has really helped me, I used to be very funny earlier but then I started feeling so lost and kinda dumb to be honest all because of losing my sense of humor but now I feel awesome again… thank you so much.
Thank you! You inspire me. I’ve had a few months lately where my LOL has been missing in action and it sounds like you are just like me, we love and need our sense of humor. So I’m doing everything I can to get it back and milk any belly laughs I can find for all they are worth! Everything feels better when you laugh until you can cry. Much love!
I hope I get my humor back and I hope I want it
I hope so too! I know I had to work hard at times to find it, but eventually I did get it back. I wish you so many smiles and so much laughter.